A couple of years ago, I was talking with my friend who had been married for seven years.
The two of us had a baby boy.
As we talked, he described his wife as “one of the nicest, kindest people you’ll ever meet.”
It made me want to know what the average man is like when he’s married.
He said, “I don’t think that women are as hard on themselves as men are.”
And I realized that this was exactly what I’d been thinking about as I was dating my husband.
In the United States, women are more likely to suffer from anxiety and depression.
And for many men, these feelings aren’t limited to the bedroom.
For many men and women, they are present in their families and in their workplaces, too.
I knew that as a single man, my marriage was a major source of anxiety.
And I knew, for many women, it’s a source of stress as well.
It wasn’t until I interviewed the men who are my closest friends that I realized how prevalent this issue was.
I’m not referring to the many men who, when they have a new baby, take time to spend with their families, to read to their kids, to make time for their friends and family, to go to yoga, or to take a walk.
I am referring to those men who talk about their marriage, their relationships, and their families on the phone, in their social media feeds, and in emails.
For most men, a spouse has a major impact on their life, and a spouse’s health and well-being is also important to their wellbeing.
But for women, their health and happiness are far more immediate and immediate.
The research that shows women suffer more than men from stress has been in research that has been conducted over the last 50 years.
But the study that started it all was the National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey (NHANES) that I had just started my career with, and it has been one of the most comprehensive surveys of Americans ever conducted.
It has been the best study of its kind in the world.
I had always wondered if I was experiencing stress, and the more I thought about it, the more the answer was obvious.
Men, too, have been studied on this issue, and I thought that there was a clear correlation between their mental health and their marital quality.
So, when I asked men who were my closest male friends to give me their perspective on how much stress they experienced during their marriages, I felt confident enough to share my findings with you.
I started by asking men what they thought was the most stressful part of their marriages.
I asked them to give an example of what was most stressful in their relationship and then to describe the emotional aftermath.
They did this by listing the most emotionally draining part of the marriage.
They were also asked to give a number of other positive things they enjoyed about their relationships.
I would use these as the starting points, and then, I would go back and repeat this process with men who had experienced the same experience.
I ended up with three groups of men who I interviewed, and all three groups had similar experiences: 1) men who married young, and had a very high divorce rate, and were living in a smaller, less secure, less connected community; 2) men married young and had relatively stable incomes, but struggled to find a place to live; and 3) men aged 50 and older, who had more of a stable, stable marriage, but had a less stable, less supportive environment.
Men’s stories varied.
Some said their husbands were extremely supportive, but also that they felt isolated and disconnected, and that they found it difficult to make friends or be around other men in their marriages and their workplaces.
They described their marriage as a source, a way of life, a part of who they were, and they described it as not only a part but a defining feature of their lives.
And men’s experiences of stress varied widely.
Men who were older and had lower incomes reported less of an impact of stress on their mental and physical health.
They also had higher levels of satisfaction with their marriage.
Men in their late 50s and 60s, however, reported more severe stressors in their relationships than younger men, even though they had higher incomes and more stable marriages.
One of the findings that I came across was that a significant number of men said that their stress levels were significantly higher than those of other men who lived in their own households, and this was even when they were in the same age bracket.
One man described his stress levels as “very, very high,” and another said they were “exactly what I was expecting.”
There are also some findings that are less straightforward.
Men from the lower income group reported less stress than those from the higher income group.
Men with a lower education level reported higher levels than those with a higher education level.
But most of these men did